Habits make you unfree
The more habits we have, the less free we become, so should we never replace one habit with another? No. Habits, routines, rituals are great things so that we don’t have to constantly think about it and restructure our lives. Lock the door, tie your shoes, make coffee first thing in the morning – that clears your head for ideas and creativity. And so habits that annoy us also give us a fixed framework that releases other capacities.
Instead of necessarily wanting to give up a bad habit, we can think of a replacement habit that is better for us. It may not sound like an equivalent substitute, but when we want to drink less wine, it’s a lot easier to have a glass of grape juice instead than nothing to pour yourself.
Shedding ballast and letting go of painful experiences
Each of us has negative experiences in our lives. Things that hurt, change us – and in the worst case, we drag around with us forever. We’ll show you how to let the memories go. Whether the loss of a loved one, a significant defeat or a misfortune. Painful experiences can cling to us like an unpleasant spider monkey.
Even if a negative event is in the past, it can still be quite a problem at the moment. It is important to also allow this pain and accept it. Because the problem is, the more we defend ourselves against the feeling, the tighter the monkey grabs. Often times it helps to think that the way I feel about it is totally okay. But I am now ready to let this feeling go again.
Have you already had painful experiences that you were then able to let go of? Tell me about your experiences in the past and let’s consider together what other positive things can be learned from them. I write down my thoughts and experiences in articles in the category ‘Ruthless Quotes‘.